married seven years on 21 Dec 09
been with this wonderful man for nearly fourteen years
he is one of my favourite things in whole world
only not the favourite because we have kids together and I can’t favour him over them
they might read this one day.
we don’t do warm and fuzzy
or romance or champagne or presents or romantic walks
we do drink wine together
and we do enjoy each other’s company over anything else.
Years ago – seven to be more precise
I was wedding planning and looking for poems to use on the invitations, or in the vows
and I remember this one, because it is not fluffy and hallmark cardy
and our MC read it out to us at the reception
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.